This morning, I had the unpleasant reminder that not everything works out the way you want it to, even if you thought you planned it down to the last detail. It’s a busy weekend over here on my end; with a family wedding this evening, a graduation party on Saturday, a large family get together on Sunday, and overall prepping for the boyfriend and roommate’s arrival on Wednesday! The last thing I need, is to learn that while my boyfriend and I thought we bought the right flight for him, we actually bought his return flight a day later than mine (oops….).
After the initial shock and wave of “oh my gosh”, annoyance, frustration, and venting to my younger sister… it helped to try and look at the situation from all angles and see what the best option was from here. My sister is a 12 year old (soon to be 13) going on 25 year old girl! She calls herself the “Asian Oprah” and doesn’t ask if we want her advice, she dishes it anyways. As you can imagine, I’m annoyed and flustered, trying to find the best option, and it doesn’t help that my boyfriend and I are on a 6 hour time difference and trying to talk this through rationally when he is working and I am getting ready for the wedding. Little “Asian Oprah” (what we’ll call my sister today) gave me the best advice that really put things into perspective. She told me:
“Stop focusing on if you and him talked about buying the right date and what you said or he said. It’s done, and you can’t go back to change it. The best thing to do now is for both of you to figure out how to solve the problem, and move forward!”
Yes, my 12 year old sister told me this in the midst of my ranting and annoyance, and then proceeded to tell me that I’m ruining her breakfast with my attitude. Wow, harsh! But, it made me take a step back and realize that if there’s a problem, the best option is to NOT play the blame game, and instead focus our energy on finding a solution. Thanks, sistah!
So, if you’re feeling a bit flustered and maybe a bit annoyed about a problem that you’re having, take my sister’s advice and focus your energy on “moving forward”, besides dwelling on the past. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to learn from the past, but after that, moving forward is where you want to go! Happy Fri-YAY, friends, and enjoy your long Labor Day Weekend! (:
