Imagine exploring new areas, romantic getaways, and always having your significant other to adventure with. Sounds like the dream, right? Running off together and exploring an unknown city or navigating through a country where you both are lost in translation. No one seems to mention how difficult it can be to travel with your significant other for a long period of time, or even on a vacation! You know, they always say you don’t know a person until you’ve traveled with them!
If you don’t believe me, take Bill Murray’s advice:
And if you need a bit more convincing, this is the beginner’s guide to traveling with your significant other. No matter if it’s your first time going on a weekend trip together, your first relationship, or maybe you both are starting to take things more seriously. Here are some tips for traveling with your other half, and making sure you both enjoy your trip and come out sane.
How to NOT drive each other insane:
- Separate responsibilities
The easiest way to avoid arguments or becoming completely annoyed of each other? Designate responsibilities. If you like driving most of the time, designate your significant other to do a bit of research on directions and also have an idea of how to get to your destination. If you’re more of a packer, make sure to pack the essentials for you both (ie: beach towels, sunscreen, etc). Separating responsibilities won’t make one person feel like they’re doing all the leg work while the other person is reaping the vacation benefits! Planning a trip is a good amount of work, and when the responsibilities are equally divided, it makes both people a bit more excited for #baecation!
- Don’t play that “Oh, I don’t care, you pick” game. Yes, you know what I’m talking about!
The phrase that probably pisses off EVERY significant other. “Oh, I don’t care, you pick!” is not cute, it’s not fun, and it makes decision making absolutely terrible. Raise your hand if you’ve ever told your significant other that you didn’t care and that they could pick, only to turn down what they suggested because you weren’t “in the mood for that“. *ME! GUILTY!* I have a horrible habit of doing just this. My poor boyfriend is such a patient soul, bless his heart (and sanity)! While on a trip, no matter how tired or indifferent you both may feel, don’t play this game. One, it’s frustrating, and two, if you’re trying to decide where to eat for dinner and you’ve found yourself playing this game, y’all might as well order a pizza and stay in. Put in the effort to decide, TOGETHER. Give options! Y’all, if you got this far, you can decide. No, I won’t take your “anything is fine” answer, because we both know “anything” isn’t actually fine!
- Bring up the forbidden word:
sex, I mean, MONEY.
Remember that word that makes everyone cringe, hide, and/or cower in fear? The one that makes some of us break out into a cold sweat? Yeah, it ain’t
sex, it’s money. Everyone has a different budget while traveling, and that goes for significant others as well! I am sure we all have our own idea of “balling hard” while on vacation. One person may think: cocktails, luxury rental cars, and the soft plushy towels and blankets of a five star hotel. The other person could be thinking: street food, beer, and short hot showers. While I’m sure if you’re dating, your travel styles can be similar, vacations together can bring out a whole different side to someone. Bring up the idea of money from the beginning. How will you two be paying for this trip? Are you splitting everything evenly? Is one person willing to pay more? Talk it out. It will save you the headache and the argument!
- Being a team
One thing that is certain is that you both are a team. Traveling is only fun if you make it fun! It can also be frustrating, tiresome, and a pain in the butt. To make sure you’re not about to drive each other insane while on the trip, work together. For me, this means that my boyfriend and I are always willing to compromise. When roadtripping through Spain, I couldn’t drive at all. I have no idea how to drive a stick shift car, so my boyfriend drove the long hours while I navigated, packed snacks, and made sure we had everything we needed.
How to FALL IN LOVE with each other more:
- Although you might think this is an entire prolonged “date”, it’s not
Who DOESN’T want to fall more in love with their partner while on vacation? Romantic, right? Sunset dinners or feeding each other grapes while laying on the beach, heck yes! One thing to keep in mind is that your vacation isn’t one long “date”. It’s an adventure! Just kidding, but not really. Just because you both will be spending most of your time together doesn’t mean that finding one nicer activity, to do together shouldn’t be included in the itinerary. This could be a nicer restaurant for dinner, snorkeling together, or even getting a couple’s massage! Switch it up, you’re in a new place, which means more spontaneity!
- Having alone time (*wink wink*)
Before y’all get your mind in the gutter, I’m talking about time alone, from each other. Sometimes being in a new area, especially if you don’t speak the native language, can make frustrations rise. Also, spending a lot of time with one person can easily make you feel annoyed or bothered by small things. It’s ok to have alone time and relax in your own way. This could mean laying out with a good book by yourself, going on a walk, grabbing some food, etc. Taking a step away from each other and enjoying the new area on your own could be what you two needed! If you’ve been rolling your eyes at your significant other for more than half the day, it’s probably time to put this into action and take that alone time.
- Embracing the things you can’t control
Let’s face it, no matter how hard we try, we can’t control everything. (That’s some solid life advice for y’all, not just travel advice!) Like I mentioned before, sometimes we all get a bit annoyed with our significant others. Or, we get annoyed at SOMETHING and take it out on our significant others. Again, bless my boyfriend and his patience, because I am not the easiest person to deal with. Things will definitely pop up while traveling, whether they’re pleasant or unwanted surprises. One thing I’ve experienced is embracing the things I couldn’t control. Like that one time my boyfriend and I didn’t even go out to eat dinner (two nights in a row!) because we were so pooped from roaming around the city. Or, that time I thought I had packed something, or asked my boyfriend to pack it *
cough cough* and the item was never packed. Then I went into head on control freak mode and said our trip was ruined and blamed my boyfriend. Yes, don’t do that. Blaming each other is never going to work and only going to cause more problems. Embrace it, you’re in a new place with your boo – was that item really that important? And can it be bought at your nearest convenience store?
- Take the cutesy photos (just don’t bombard us with your #baecation on social media)
As millennials we sure do love our social media. If you’re not tweeting it, posting it on Facebook Live, Instagramming it with #nofilter, or Snapping it – did it REALLY happen? Did that thrilling, romantic, and fairytale #baecation really happen if we didn’t feel every ounce of jealousy and FOMO that you wanted us to feel? Kidding, of course (
kindof, I’m not salty). I’m all about taking photos and posting it to social media (hello, I am a blogger!); but as a person who truly believes in being all there in a moment, sometimes the social media can ruin the vacation. Take the photos, post the cutest ones that you love, but for the sake of all of your Facebook friends or Instagram followers, I don’t think we really need to see EVERY DRINK you had while laying on the beach with your toes in the sand and your hunny next to you. I think we get it after the first three photos that you’re living it up on vacation with your boo. Soak it up together, but this vacation is for you two, not the 500 followers you have on Snapchat or Instagram. Y’all, we don’t care that much. Ouch, do I sound salty or what?
Traveling with your significant other doesn’t need to be complicated. The real reason you decided to take your first trips together as a couple were to experience somewhere different, TOGETHER. That’s what it really comes down to!
(Watch me and the boo’s #baecation in the Algarve, Portugal! Subscribe to my channel here.)
Have you traveled with your significant other? What worked for you two? What didn’t? And if you have never traveled with your partner,
fuck it, grab a bestie and these things can definitely be applied!
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